Category Consequences

*UPDATED* Your Kid is Watching Porn: A Word of Warning for Parents That’s Worth Sharing

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By Crystal Renaud

I am not a parent. I am not even married. But if you’re familiar with my story, then it is no surprise that I was once a kid who encountered porn and became a porn-addicted teen. For me, it all began when I was just 10 years old.

This image is me at the age of 10… just a few months after the discovery of a pornographic magazine in my brother’s bathroom which catapulted me into an 8-year addiction to porn and other sexual behaviors. I show it to you so that you can see with your own eyes, what 10 years old really looks like. I think in today’s culture of kids growing up too fast, we forget how young this really is.

20 years later we know that pornography has only become more mainstream, easier to find… and to hide...

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Guest Post: From the Pit to the Pulpit by Emily Rose Massey

Emily Rose MasseyPsalm 40

For the director of music. Of David. A psalm.

1 I waited patiently for the Lord;
he turned to me and heard my cry.
2 He lifted me out of the slimy pit,
out of the mud and mire;
he set my feet on a rock
and gave me a firm place to stand.
3 He put a new song in my mouth,
a hymn of praise to our God.
Many will see and fear the Lord
and put their trust in him.

“You are NEVER too far gone for God to use you!” I want to shout from the rooftops almost on a daily basis.

As someone who has experienced the radical love and grace of my Heavenly Father, I want to break the lie over others that they have seriously disappointed God because they have lived less than a holy standard...

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Cleaning Up After the Elephants

We often get fixated on the elephant. The big pink elephants that stomp around the rooms of our lives. You know which ones I am talking about. It’s the ones that no one else likes to talk about. You step around it. You fix the things it breaks. Problem is pretty soon, you just can’t ignore it anymore.

So let’s say you get to that point. The rare occasion of acknowledging the elephant for what it is. What happens once we get the elephant out the door?

As you can imagine, elephants leave behind quite a mess. A path of destruction that trampled on everything you worked so hard to build… and don’t forget the piles of umm ….. stuff ….. it also left behind.

It’s not pretty.

You see it’s not just the elephant we have to worry about. We also have to take time to clean up after it’s gone...

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Cheapening God’s Grace

Last night I found a “goals” type of school paper I wrote when I was just 16 years old. Behind pretty words about my newfound faith and elaborate life goals hid a girl who was hopeless.

A girl entangled by pornography and sexual addiction.

I clearly remember when I wrote this paper. It was the beginning of my junior year. My teacher at the time “Mr. Boothe” asked us to write a paper on what we hoped to accomplish during the remainder of our high school careers and what we hoped to do after graduation… and beyond.

I had just come off the high of “getting saved” at church summer camp. I was ready for things to be different. Or at least perceived as such. No more being the quiet girl afraid that everyone would know about my dirty little secret...

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Porn is fun until…

you are in severe financial debt.

you step outside your marriage.

you risk disease, pregnancy or even death.

you alienate your family.

you lose your job.

you commit a crime.

Porn is fun until you are addicted and make decisions you never thought you would. Addiction doesn’t just affect you. It impacts every person, every moment and every aspect of your life.

But there’s help. And hope.

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